Tag Archive: parenting


Blended Broth:

2 green bell peppers

1 red bell pepper

3 bushels of cilantro

2 yellow squash

1 green squash

1 Mexican Squash

2 bushels of green onion

1 lemon

4 cloves of garlic

Vegetables:

5 Russet potatoes

1 yellow onion

1 white onion

4 carrots

1 bag of okra

1 box of mushrooms

and boxed Chicken Broth

3 Carne Asada filets

Olive oil

Canola oil

Seasonings:

Salt Free Seasoning

Garlic salt with Parsley flakes

Italian Seasoning

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Today, I volunteered in J’s preschool class. We sang a groovy song , Rainbow Around Me. J merrily belted out the lyrics of the song. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gk1xx9dhkhs) He sang louder than everybody and did the body movements that coordinate with the song.

After school we went and had a snack…french fries and flavored shaved ice. We encountered our cousin Isaiah. J was excited to see him there working the register. He asked Melissa Isaiah’s coworker ” Did you know we know Isaiah?” While we were eating snack he talked endlessly. We had to leave when he began to try to climb on the furniture.

Next, we went to a discount store to search for my interview outfits. I told him I wanted his help and input on the outfit for my interviews. He immediately said ” You need a black shirt and black pants.” I refuted that black would be too hot because it will be in the 90’s. ” He told me ” You have to wear a gown because you are a princess. Princess wear high heels, too!”  We discussed how I needed something professional and comfortable. I also told I didn’t want to be a princess I am a queen and he is my prince. He insisted that I am a princess because he is my prince.

We ended up picking a coral blouse, magenta blouse, and black lace blouse and brown trousers. He persisted that I get a black shirt. So, that I can be a Black Superhero.

It was a lot of having his input on my clothing choices.. he wanted to pick out his clothes from the women’s section. I had to explain that the store was divided into different categories and also how the clothes in the women’s aisle were too big for him.. He then said when he get’s older he will wear big clothes. He saw a Mickey Mouse Club hooded sweatshirt for himself he wanted to purchase. I loved listening to his fast paced monologue, with some occasional questions for me. Lately, he has been experiencing hyperspeech. I understand it is a symptom of ADHD, however, I enjoy listening to him babble away. I remember the scary times when he was speechless, incoherent, and lost in his own world.

J is excited for his Easter Basket.

J loves Iron Man and the color red.

I’m excited that his basket will illicit a big toothy smile.

1) Iron Man Arc FX Armor

2) Iron Man 50 piece puzzle (2)

3) Fresh Fruit: Bananas & Oranges,

4) Sunrise Farmers Market Fruit Snacks

5) Art Supplies: Bingo Dot markers, Primary Color paints, Colored pencils.

Today, we went to Bookmans after a very emotional play date. We have seen our friends in six months. I gave J warning that we were going to have a play date with his friend Skyler. He was excited. When they arrived at the pumpkin patch He gave  Skyler a hug and warmed up to Baby Jackson right away. He pushed Jackson in the stroller and pulled wagons brimming with pumpkins around the patch with Skyler. Our plans changed because the movie theater we wanted to go to no longer existed. So, we drove to Sky’s home to play together. J cried A LOT! I had to put him on my lap, remind him to use his words, and hold him close.

On our way home, J decided he wanted to go to Bookmans. He said he wanted to purchase a Cat in The Hat DVD. We danced and sang “Cat In the Hat knows A lot about that”! We saw the cashier who gave J the Trumpet on Thursday. J told him thank you. J has not put down that trumpet since Thursday; he loves it. He sings ABC’s, twinkle twinkle little star, and other favorite songs on it. Next, we quickly walk past the guitars. He wanted to play them. He was easily derailed when I reminded that he was not allowed and he could play his instruments at home.  We raced to the DVD section. J opened up the DVD case and and their wasn’t a DVD. I explained that the DVD’s were up front by the cashier. He insisted that he couldn’t have that one because it didn’t have a DVD. I reminded him that they were up front like they were on Thursday. He couldn’t hear me or trust my words. His level of frustration and disappointment skyrocketed with each case he opened and there wasn’t a DVD. I tried to combat it with ” you are no longer allowed to open the DVD case” that did not work. He cried more.

I picked out  Cat in The Hat Miles and miles of Reptiles and marched over to the book section. I gave him a Thomas book to choose. He was quiet and content for about thirty seconds then the avalanche of tears and falling backwards and laying on the floor. I asked him to change his behavior and attitude so that he could pick out something he liked and we could get some tater tots for dinner. He was quiet briefly and then cried again. I scooped him up and we used his $10 birth certificate.When the cashier handed him the DVD; he immediately stopped crying. His smile covered his whole face and he laughed giddily. J rocked his beloved DVD back and forth smiling and laughing. I pointed out to him the drawers of DVD’s, to give him clarity.

I later asked him why he was crying when I had told him the DVD’s were up front. He said it wasn’t that he didn’t believe me that the DVD’s were up front but he didn’t trust that the DVD’s were up front.

The lesson I learned is that we will ALWAYS go the cashier have him/her show him the DVD’s and then go pick a DVD. I will make a weekly Bookman excursion so he can purchase a new book or DVD and get acclimated with their system.

Gardening: Front yard

I cleaned out my refrigerator today, I used all my old fruits and veggies for composting. I used avocados, blueberries, bell peppers, cucumber, salad, bananas, and corn.  I planted many seeds using my chaos gardening technique. The seeds I planted are : corn, sunflowers, kale, eggplant, carrot, aloe vera, sweet basil, and bird seed mix.

J has had a immeasurable success with his dog Gordon-Henry Issac. He informed me Issac is his last name which differs from ours.

GHI has eased anxiety. For example, he HATES to be ALONE. Yesterday, he was in his Grandparents home , while we all talked outside . He opened up the back door and asked ” Mom, can you come inside with me?” and I replied ” I am enjoying being outdoors talking to Grandma. You can bring your toys outside.” He said ” No, I don’t want to.” he shut the door and played inside.  Last, we he would have whined , cried and demanded that I play with him exclaiming he was scared and lonely. My Mom noticed a difference in his behavior .

J has NEVER slept in his own crib  or bed. He used to scream just passing his crib. He has had his bed three and a half years and hadn’t slept in it. For the last 3 nights he has been sleeping in bed without complaint.

Yesterday, I went to Target. I dreamed of a nice mature patio, with a fabulous wicker set. Then catapulted myself to REALITY , of inexpensive plastic chairs.

  vs. 

 

I want a bright, bold , neon colors. I want a accent wall that stands out from my dull colored home. In my fantasy, there are plants in BOLD ceramic containers. Flowers will come in a array of colors…hanging in planters.

    

I am going to create my fantasy on a strict budget…I WILL make this happen slowly but surely!

   

I’m super EXCITED ! We discovered they joy of Burlington. They have a GREAT toy selection for very reasonable prices. Burlington carries ALOT of Thomas & Friends toys.

First, J found Push Along James. The Push Along trains are quite bulky , which makes them easy to play with. Next, J discovered a Gordon. James was quickly ABANDONED. J LOVES GORDON! He played contently for over a hour.

When it was time to leave, I repeated that I was not buying Gordon . He was okay with it until it was actually time to leave. Thats when he LOST HIS COOL!

I gave him a count down. Told him “Either you or I can put it back on the shelf.” J JUMPED out of his stroller, with this crazed look. He searched right and left FRANTICALLY. Holding Gordon closely against his body. He wanted to run but was paralyzed. He looked at me earnestly and begged but also demenaded

” Don’t take Gordon from me.” He was trembling with tears in his eyes.

I told him I had a solution. “You can use your allowance to buy Gordon, ok?” He replied with a head nod.

Since he was in distress. I scooped him up and rocked him in my lap and gave him some kisses. J turned back to my HAPPY boy.

J has 5 Gordon trains. He LOVES  Gordon!

Child Relationship with Parents:

Trust:

Child knows that parents respond to their needs.

Comfort:

Parents comfort in distress.

Connectness:

Child feels that he belongs.

Love:

Child feels that they are important & brings joy to others.

Desire to Please:

Parents are authorities.

Forgiveness:

My Parents forgive me.

Child Spiritual Values:

Trust in a responsive God.

Comfort in God, in nature, in others.

Connection to others, to something bigger than self.

Love for self, for others, for God.

Willingness to be responsible to self and others.

Acceptance of oneself & others.